Balancing Act
Written By: Lady Karleen Bogan

Is it just me, or are the days going by so fast?  Even technology is moving rapidly. I’m trying my best to stay current and keep up with it. One thing is for sure, the clock keeps ticking. We often take breaks and hit the pause button but time waits for no one. We must take advantage of the time we have to do what’s most important. However, we can’t allow various circumstances to lead us off track. We must keep our priorities in perspective.

It’s all about balance. As Career Women, Wives and Mothers, days can be very busy but balance in the home is a must. Balance simply means the ability to keep steady and not fall over. I know the day we are living in is much different. Women are out here doing their “thang!” getting things done, moving up in the world, furthering their education, advancing in their careers, accomplishing goals and dreams to reach their full potential; which is all, fantastic and wonderful. I love to see, read and hear about successful women regardless of race or background. What I hate, is to see women not having their priorities in order, when this happens eventually something fails. It’s usually the home life that is suffering and family time has taken a back seat to personal agendas.  

Creating and maintaining a healthy home life for your spouse and children takes precedence according to my beliefs.  Call me old school or whatever but my family comes first, that is my most important priority. It can and should be yours as well.   In order to keep things balanced at home, we must redirect our focus to the home. Let’s see what the Word says about women and the home. Titus 2:4-5 “That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word be not blasphemed.” In previous verses of this chapter its content is instructing aged men and aged women on conduct and behavior, encouraging them to pass these teachings on to the younger generations.  This truth is telling women to love their husbands and to love their children and to be keepers at home.


One for sure way to love your family is to keep up your home. The word keepers here means to be workers. How can one keep the home, if they’re not at home? At home, there is always some work to do. Something to cook or prepare. Something to clean or organize. Something to wash and fold. Someone to nurture or console. Someone to help or give instructions and directions to.

Women are not keeping the home because they are keeping the streets and everything else in between. We cannot expect to have a balanced home life and we’re otherwise occupied with things not pertaining to the home.  I Timothy 1:5:14 “I will therefore that the younger woman marry, bear children, guide the house.” Guide here means to direct. This plainly states how we have been given full authority to rule the home.  Notice I didn't say, to rule our husbands. But, that is a different subject I’ll address another time.

You heard the saying, the man is the head of the family but the woman is the “Queen of the House”, our home is our kingdom. We are the general manager and the tour guide of our own homes.

Proverbs 14:1 “Every wise woman buildeth her house but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.” Notice where our focus should be; building our homes. Proverbs 31:27 “She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.” We should be looking to the ways of our household, guiding all the affairs of the home with discretion. Keeping all things in good decorum; and bringing up our children in virtue, as well as in the fear and admonition of the Lord.  

We can tear down anything through neglect. If we are not keeping and guiding our home according to the Word of God then we are neglecting it.  Proverbs 24:30-31 “I went by the field of the slothful, and by the vineyard of the man void of understanding; and, lo, it was all grown over with thorns, and nettles had covered the face thereof, and the stone wall thereof was broken down.” This garden got broken down through neglect. Song of Solomon 1:6 “Look not upon me, because I am black, because the sun hath looked upon me:  my mother’s children was angry with me; they made me the keeper of the vineyards; but mine own vineyard have I not kept.”
Queen, please don’t let this happen to your palace. How are we busy keeping everything and everybody else; yet not keeping up with the blessings that God gave us? We prayed and asked God for a husband, for children, for a new home, etc. What happened? Our prayers were answered. Now that we have what we want lets remember these 3 basic biblical principles I shared with you: To keep, to guide, and to build. With the Lord’s help we can balance everything efficiently.  I encourage you to make strides daily to live a well balanced life by doing the best you can, as long as you can, while you can. I believe that’s what God expects from us all.